Amy North's video: Mistakes that ruin a date everyone is guilty of 4

http://www.CoachNorth.com - Mistakes that ruin a date (everyone is guilty of !) Dates are tough. There are no rules. If you’ve ever screwed something up without knowing it and ruined a date, then this video is for you. I’m going to give you a bunch of mistakes to avoid making so you can relax and focus on enjoying yourself on dates. Hi Youtube, I’m Amy North. I’ve been here on Youtube for years, providing women with dating advice that works. This video comes from hundreds of conversations with clients, viewers and friends about dates that went wrong. I’ve pinpointed five mistakes that can instantly turn a guy off and ruin the date. And here they are: fighting about who pays This is a classic one that can trip many girls up. Does letting him pay make you seem ungrateful. Does paying make you seem weird? Does splitting it mean you’re not interested? Slow down. In reality, a guy doesn’t really care about who pays and whether or not he offers to pay doesn’t really say anything about his value as a man. Sure, it can be nice and romantic if he pays but people with different backgrounds and different beliefs feel differently about paying. So if he doesn’t offer, don’t worry too much. If he does offer, say thank you. Or you can offer to split it. But if he tells you not to worry about it, then don’t worry about it. The only real bad move you can make here is being indecisive, argumentative or weird about the whole thing. If you’d prefer to split it, that’s totally okay. Just explain it to him in a positive way. It’s important to stick up for what you believe in but it’s also okay to err on the side of agreeable early on and discuss your personal beliefs more in depth when you two are more comfortable around one another. 2. having no plans This is more on him than on you but if you’re going on a date make sure it’s a date! Have a solid plan. If he says “let’s hang out on friday” ask him what he wants to do or even suggest a restaurant. Just hanging out and talking can be fun but it can also go bad. There’s the chance that he’s just trying to get in your pants, and if that’s what you want, go for it but then you probably don’t need my advice. The other thing to remember is that having plans gives the date both a structure and expectations. Dating is scary for both guys and girls because you don’t know what’s going to happen. Having a plan--say, dinner and a movie, or going for a walk on the beach or even watching a hockey game--removes some of the unknown from the equation. You may not know what this guy likes to do for fun, what his sense of humour is like, what topics are off limits, or almost anything about him as a person but if you have a plan for the date, at least you both know what you’ll be doing and where you’ll be while you’re getting to know one other. And no matter how much you click, there are bound to be lulls in the conversation. Eating dinner, getting drinks, or going to an event gives you something else to do and respond to that is outside of just the two of you. Plus, the shared experience can be really bonding. Disclaimer: I do advise you to not do the movie on a first date. It doesn’t allow you two to have a real conversation. You’re still basically sitting in the dark with a stranger. 3. being late This is a simple one. Don’t be late, don’t change the plans last minute, and don’t keep him waiting. You’re starting the date off on a bad note. An empty chair makes a bad first impression. He might think you’re standing him up. He might think you’re flakey and unreliable or that you don’t care. There’s plenty of reasons to not be late so don’t schedule a date too close to other plans. Wait for a time when you have time to get ready for the date without feeling rushed. *** More from Amy North: *** How to Get A Man: http://www.coachnorth.com LoveLearnings: https://www.lovelearnings.com Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/amynorthdating/