Santa’s Philosophy's video: In Defense of Caution

Follow Me - https://www.instagram.com/billbeteet/ Transcription of the Episode Yo, what up? What up? What up? This is the lazy philosophers podcast and we're back in the building. So guys, today's answer was, what do we tell the youth that I think we should stop? And I think we should definitely stop, especially telling men that relationships manifest whenever you're not looking for them. The, I just think that's just patently not true. At least nowadays. It's not an, especially for a majority of men, it's not true. Maybe you know, five top five, 10% of guys can stumble into a great relationship, but most of the time it is. The hard reality of it is, is that you have to put a lot of effort into your dating because. Women are more valuable than men in the dating market, and they have more access than ever. And so therefore you, you're, you're in a precarious situation where you have to do more to stand out because the cost of a woman's monogamy is higher. And a lot of people want to say, Ooh, it's the blah, blah, blah. Women are actually really fair. Um. They just want you to be good at things. Whatever you pick to be good at, they want you to be good. And the reason why I suspect that women like tall men is only not only but PO in part because it just shows you're good at growing. So it was like, Oh, what do you know off the back? This guy is good at growing his body right. Um, if you have a nice face, you're good at growing a nice face, right? And if you're going to make money, you're going to making money. They, they appreciate what you're good at. And if you can get more good, good at more things, the more interest you're gonna get. So what you want to do is you want to up your value. The easiest ways to do this is to get better looking. Get around like between eight and 12%. Body fat, muscular, fashionable, smell good, have good diction, get a good job. And those five things I'm going to tell you, if you have those five things alone. You will attract a pretty good person. Um, but if you want to attract a really, really powerful person and have them really want you, you're going to have to have the next level thing, which you probably would have if you have all these other things covered, is a good career. Um, and all those things together will make you more valuable in the sexual marketplace. And then you need to do step two. Step two is actually. Really trying to find somebody, and I mean not through, Oh, I bought premium Tinder and I've been on Bumble. I swipe like three hours a day. I'm talking about really putting yourself out there and making the goal to talk to every girl you find attractive, whether or not you try to get her number, something else. Same with women. Actually, if you want a great guy, stop waiting for a great guy to enter your life. Just get one, go out, talk to them, see what happens, right? Um, there are tons of lonely people there, tons of lonely, really high quality people. You need to add randomness to your life, and I'm going to be honest with you guys, part of me like wonders, like I'm a man. Like, you know, I'm during this lockdown. What. You know, um, loneliness creeps and you're like, man, am I ever going to find anybody? Because you're over identifying with the current circumstance. Your brain cannot comprehend. Your brain has a very poor, is very poor at predicting what it doesn't know. And so you actually don't know all the people you don't know and you don't know all the women who would hypothetically be into you and date you because you haven't found those things out. You have to prove these things because your brain has bad estimation. So don't count on things to just happen. Take the time to make things happen, to make you happen, to change your aesthetic, to change who you are, but also take the time to change your approach and not doing what everyone else does and get the status quo go up and beyond to get what you really, really want. Full Transcript available on Request