United YES's video: Your Tawbah Repentance Nasar Jafar

1. Regret the sin The Prophet ṣallallāhu 'alayhi wa sallam (peace and blessings of Allāh be upon him) says: “Regret is repentance.” [Sunan Ibn Majah] Regret is essential in showing sincerity. If you truly regret a wrongdoing, then you understand why Allah subḥānahu wa ta'āla (glorified and exalted be He) told us that it is harmful and that you desire to truly purify yourself from it and seek the halal and pure means that He subḥānahu wa ta'āla (glorified and exalted be He) prescribed instead. 2. Stop the sin Stop immediately. Do not persist or insist on committing the sin or indulging in it further. Just stop. Make a conscious, serious decision and effort to stop and quit this wrongdoing right away. 3. Make a sincere intention to not go back to the sin This is a heartfelt decision that you make to truly quit and not go back. Even if you’ve fallen into the same sin an hour later, so long as you were sincere in giving it up, then it is accepted. Every time you fall, keep making sincere intentions not to go back. Yes, Allah can and will accept your sincere repentance each and every single time you make it even if it be one zillion times. Just do it, and mean it and be sincere, strong and perseverant. 4. Seek forgiveness of Allah subḥānahu wa ta'āla (glorified and exalted be He) and repent One way of doing that is following what our Messenger ṣallallāhu 'alayhi wa sallam (peace and blessings of Allāh be upon him) taught us. The Messenger of Allah ṣallallāhu 'alayhi wa sallam (peace and blessings of Allāh be upon him) says: “There is no one who commits a sin then purifies himself well (does wudoo’/ablution) and stands and prays two rak’ahs (two units of prayer), then asks Allah for forgiveness, but Allah will forgive him.” Then he recited this verse: ‘And those who, when they have committed Faahishah (illegal sexual intercourse) or wronged themselves with evil, remember Allah and ask forgiveness for their sins; — and none can forgive sins but Allah — and do not persist in what (wrong) they have done, while they know’ (Qur’an 3:135).” [Sunan Abi Dawood] 5. Follow the sin or bad deed with good deeds Allah says: “And establish prayer at the two ends of the day and at the approach of the night. Indeed, good deeds do away with misdeeds. That is a reminder for those who remember.” [Qur’an: Chapter 11: Verse 114] So, if you’ve committed a sin, then go make wudoo, pray two rak’aas, make istighfar, read your adhkar, read a few pages of the Qur’an, help your parents, call family members, relieve someone from their distress, give sadaqah, help someone in need, there are countless opportunities. So bring it! Suffocate the sin with good deeds and do not let it suffocate you. Surround it from every direction with as many good deeds as you can. Just kill it! Again, you are in control, so control the sin and do not let it control you or define you or steal your life from you. 6. Do NOT delay tawbah. Do it immediately One big mistake here is to think that you can delay repentance. The problem is, you never know when your last minute would be. You might delay, but never actually get the chance to do it. So you must do it as soon as possible. The Messenger of Allah ṣallallāhu 'alayhi wa sallam (peace and blessings of Allāh be upon him) says: “Allah accepts a slave’s repentance as long as the latter is not on his deathbed (that is, before the soul of the dying person reaches the throat)”. [At-Tirmidhi, who categorised it as Hadith Hasan] Now, one last point, if the sin involves transgressing against someone else, then you have to bring them their right back and/or seek their forgiveness. For example, stealing necessitates returning what you’ve stolen or the equivalent of it to its owners. If you’ve spoken badly/unjustly against someone, then rectify what you said and seek forgiveness. If someone else is involved, then we need to rectify matters with them. It doesn’t make sense to slander someone for example, and follow the steps above without actually fixing the damage you’ve caused to others. Allah forgives us, but what about the other people we’ve damaged? Allah is neither Unjust nor accepts injustice. It is healing and part of our spiritual journey and getting closer to Allah subḥānahu wa ta'āla (glorified and exalted be He) to also mend the injustice we cause others. Islam essentially is about fixing yourself for your own inner peace, for Allah and for the people so that you neither harm nor reciprocate harm. So, simply go and seek forgiveness if you’ve wronged anyone. And if Allah accepts our repentance, then who are we not to forgive others? “And let them pardon and overlook. Would you not like that Allah should forgive you? And Allah is Forgiving and Merciful.” [Qur’an 24:22] Sources https://productivemuslim.com/tawbah-to-do-list/