Life Check Yourself's video: 004: Understanding Men What They Really Desire with Marni Kinrys

Listen to the full episode here http://datingwithdignity.libsyn.com/003-how-to-see-a-man-on-a-deeper-level-with-marni-kinrys Wouldn’t it be awesome if there was a dating app to let you see what was going on in men’s brains?  Well, you won’t need an app if you follow the advice of my amazing guest Marni Kinrys. Marni is the creator of the Wing Girl Method. She is a best-selling author, a radio and tv personality and she hosts the Wing Girl Method Podcast.  She has spent the last 10-years helping men (and now women) meet and attract and understand each other through her top rated blog Wing Girl Method. If you are wondering if Marni is one of those coaches that help men become douchebags? She’s not. Marni teaches men how to attract, date, seduce and get the women they want, without being a douchebag or a creep. Her goal is to teach men to be more confident so they can make women happy!   What are Men Thinking When It Comes to Dating? — [4:12] Men want to be able to bring quality women into their lives. They do want to be in a relationship. Time and time again men say they want a good girl, who respects them, who they don’t have to chase over and over, who they don’t have to convince to be with them and a woman who doesn’t put them in the ‘friend zone’ for months at a time.   95% of the time men are not thinking like women are thinking.    Men haven’t had much information available to them about dating and how to find a quality woman. And, the materials that were available to them were pickup artist stuff and objectifying women articles. Women have had relationship based magazines, books and programs for much longer.   What Keeps A Quality Guy Up at Night?[7:51] Men have fears of rejection or that they will build up an attraction and then lose it by saying something stupid. They are afraid to make an approach unless they believe it will be a sure thing. Men are not as confident as they once were.   Help A Brother Out [13:34] It’s important for women to remember that men have a filter which is based from their past experiences with women. Women should know subtle communication does not come across to men. They must be more overt than they are with other females.  Touching a man’s arm or smiling and engaging in conversation with him give him subtle hints and normally won’t be construed as aggressive. Often, men are so confused about what women want or what is acceptable right now they become frozen by the confusion. They become edited, polite, meek versions of themselves.   Just Tell Me How to Make You Happy[16:08] Men are good at following direct paths. If a woman tells a man what they want and not just expect him to do it a man will know exactly what path to follow. They can feel wonderful about themselves because they are making their woman happy. And, the next time they can do it again on their own. If you want to see a man on a regular basis you can tell him it makes you happy and that you would love to see him.   A man needs clear communication from a woman.    So, Why Do Guys Disappear? [27:17] Both men and women have disappearing acts. When a man disappears it’s a clear indication of what he thinks about you. It means they are not invested in the relationship.    Are Men Intimidated By Strong Women? [30:54] A man’s masculinity is very closely associated with how much money he makes, how much power he has and what kind of women are in his life. Financial stability is attached to a man’s ego and what their definition of being a man is.   Questions to Ask a Guy on a First Date [35:37] If a woman wants know if the guy she is meeting is a quality guy there are ways to find out on the first date. Marni says to talk about your own experiences to see how a man responds.   Women should think about what they are looking for before going on a date.   A man is likely to be nervous on a first date with a woman. Men can get flustered too. If you want to help make a man feel more comfortable you can subtly let them know they are winning. A woman can say “I’m having a great time” to help a man through a date. This way he doesn’t have to do all the work. Men are wonderful and if they have clear direction are given they can be anything we want them to be.   Make a Connection: Listen to our Dating Den Podcast Here! Join Our Dating Den Facebook Community Here! Follow us on Instagram @thedatingden Learn how to attract your perfect equal…watch our latest training here! Download a Complimentary Copy of our Book – How to Find a Quality Guy Without Going on 200 Dates Wing Girl Method Ask Women Podcast